Picture this: The receptionist in the lobby didn’t greet you a good morning. You quench for thirst so you went to a convenience store but found out that they ran out of intensifying cold water. The battery of your phone runs out in the middle of the day. You were stuck in a huge parking lot (aka a four-lane road) because the train was not working due to unending technical issues and you chose to ride the bus instead. You failed a test you’ve studied until 4 in the morning when you thought you aced it.
Of course, you’ll feel bad for encountering such acts, especially when it all happened in a Monday morning where you should start a perfect day so that a perfect week will follow. Cringing face, scratching your head, rolling eyes. What a tragedy!
Pessimistic thinking often leads to a significant psychological distress. It is this vicious cycle which inclines people spiraling down rabbit holes of depression and extreme anxiety.
Getting deep into being negative thinkers, it is a total wonder why most people think negatively about everything when things can be perceived the other way around.
There are certain negative things we could discern as positive if we should just stick to our authentic selves. Tolerating the genuine behavior of ourselves and exhausting off the negativity can be seen as something healthy. Sometimes, a dose of pessimism can actually help into becoming successful. Consider the following behaviors which are observed by many as something negative but can truly help people to live life spontaneously.
Be angry. Learn to express your anger in a positive way. Let your emotional energy set out to dismantle the unfitting situation that has caused your anger. Release the negativity inside you and try not to avoid it. Avoiding to express your anger might prolong the suffering that caused your emotional feeling in the first place.
Get lost. We usually find being lost as an irritating feeling because we feel like we’re wasting a lot of time strolling for nothing. The truth is, it makes us pay attention to the present moment and redirects our instincts into something useful which are good practices towards positivity. It is true that the journey teaches us a lot about the destination. The paths we never thought of choosing may bring us into finding our true selves. Being lost doesn’t mean we will be lost for the rest of our lives. It simply equates to the fact that we need to take time to find our way, allowing the universe to give the path which suits us best. Don’t overthink if others are racing ahead and you’re back where you started. Because the truth is, you are exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Cry. Most people find crying as a weakness. But crying let others know that we feel, we care and we are affected by the things surrounding us. This emotional distress doesn’t only let us release our grief and gloominess. It also conveys of letting people know that you are an open human being despite being vulnerable into adapting things.
Be alone. Surrounding yourself with nobody is one of the most perceived acts as something to be negative. Others say that not being socially interactive is a bad thing. But here’s the thing, think of the brilliant scientists, greatest inventors and well-known writers. They would have not produced remarkable outputs if they have not found solitude in isolating themselves from the crowd. We should just draw ourselves into being alone sometimes to find deeper inspiration and sense of creativity.
The aforementioned situations are living proofs that we should not be frightened of expressing ourselves because no matter what we do, there will always be something positive to look at. Just imagine this: If you were able to believe in Santa Claus for 8 pure and youthful years, you can believe in yourself for at least 5 seconds.